Friday, 14 April 2017

Exam Stress in Kids..... And a Parent's Response.

High expectations leads pressurising children during exams which can cause exam stress in them. 
Parents expect a lot from their children and due to this knowingly or unknowingly pressurise kids to perform well in exams. 
Children who are preparing for exams under pressure, naturally their pressure gets converted into anxiety that leads to nervousness called as Exam Stress.

But if we as parents handle children without pressurising, we can help them to get more better result.

Read an real experience of a friend.

We were getting ready to go to bed when my 7 year old son said in a calm tone, "Mamma tomorrow is my IEO (English Olympiad ) Exam".

It was 10.30pm. He was unwell the last week, so we didn't practice and on the weekend I was busy with work. Amidst all this we forgot about the exam.

Now the mother in me wanted to react...

I wanted to give my son a lecture, maybe like this...

"What?? You're telling me now, 
Why didn't you remind me earlier.
Why did you go to play? 
Why didn't you study? 
How can you forget? 
You're so careless. 
You can't even remember your exam dates"

I could have done that and maybe that's the easiest way to express OUR anxiety or fear Or Any Big Emotion We are Going Through,

 BUT I chose to Respond.

I said, "Hmm both Mamma and My Smart son Forgot about it. Sometimes we do forget things. Now we can sit for quick 15 minutes and you can ask me any doubts you have."

He quickly brought his IEO workbook and the next 15 minutes we were engrossed in solving the paper.

What surprised me was the way the things went smoothly and today morning he even solved one more paper.

His exam was superb. He was happy. 

All this happened because as a parent my friend chose to Respond.

When children are anxious or scared or are facing any big emotion, they DON'T Need an adult who is yelling, lecturing or advising. 

They need an adult who is able to guide them to a solution And  stand with them.

That's YOUR Responsibility as, 'A Better Parent.'

Today I Want You to Think Which are Some of the Situations Where You As a Parent, React and How Can You Choose to Respond, Effectively.

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